NSBR: Healing, working through issues - and being a productive member of society

My mom, me and my sister Debbie

     The past - you can't do anything to change what was done a minute ago, a day ago, 
or even 20 years ago...  But what do you do when you need to work through past issues - 
in order to be able to be that person you are suppose to be?
    My life has not been easy - from dealing with molestation, 2 failed marriages, domestic violence, and now stalking and Paternity FRAUD.  There is no text book on how 
to deal with crappy issues in your life, it just is what it is.   You can try to handle things 
to the best of your ability - but there comes a time when you probably should just walk away if things are not changing.  That is what Del and I had to do about 3.5 years ago - walk away because of issues.  
     Now - by walking away, does that mean you have given up?  NO - it just means you 
are doing what you need to in order to stay SANE.  If all people are going to do is be 
rude and talk crap - then why on earth sit and deal with it?  It took me leaving to figure things out in a safe environment - instead of with all this BS behavior being placed on 
us.  
     I won't claim to be perfect - nor will I claim to have all the answers to things... 
but I have been able to heal through a horrible past - and come out at this end ok...  I 
am talking to my mom and my sisters, and one of my brothers...where before I 
thought I was switched at birth.....  I'm in school - about halfway through now - I 
have healed through issues and continue to heal through issues...in order to be a 
better person.  


     Tips that helped me out in my journey through healing:  
1.  Find good books that can help you - whether you find self help books, or novels that are good...
2.  Move if you can - a change of pace is awesome for someone trying to rebuild their life or that needs to change things a bit.  
3.  Stay away from the TOXIC people in your life - all they are is bringing you down and keeping you in that same place...
4.  You have got to have people that you can talk to - that can help you through whatever is going on.  I had 2 sisters from other mothers that helped me, until I was able to heal with Allison...now I don't go a day or two without talking to her - 


     Tatum O'Neil recently started talking to her father - after being estranged from him
for over 25 years...  I recently started talking to my sister - after being estranged for a 
long time as well...  It sure feels good when you heal through things - not only within
YOU, but OTHERS as well...  It doesn't matter who does it or why - what matters is that it was done.  I had given up all hope, and now...anytime I need Allison...she's right there for me.  Thanks for reading - enjoy your stress free day!  

Lynda Jeffs

Memories in Tyme