I've learned and discovered...

I've learned and discovered.....


I've learned a few things along this journey the past 10 years or so... Not sure if I like all that I have learned, but I thank God that it was me that had the opportunity to learn them. I hope you will read and pass on to others.....I'd love to hear about things you've learned too!!  I am planning on doing a scrapbook layout with this post, I challenge you to find your own things you've discovered and learned along the way, and do a layout as well!  



I've learned and discovered......

I've learned that life is too damn short to live in anger.....

I've learned that people truly can be either good or bad, the sucky part....is we've dealt with a lot of assholes.

I've learned that life goes on, and no matter what it always will.....

I've learned that though family should be the most important thing in your life, in our case, that isn't what happened.

I've learned that a man has just as much rights to their children as a mother does, and in some aspects they can raise the children better.

I've learned that just because you had a child, doesn't give you the right to lie to them about who they are, where they come from or anything else.

I've also learned that just because you have a child with someone you shouldn't keep them apart from each other.

I've learned that loosing a parent just isn't fun at all.

I've learned that scrapbooking is a really cheap therapy tool.....

I've learned that Chrystal Meth sucks, and people will always associate you to that person, even if you were only on it for 9 months.....they do not care that you are one of 2% of the population that could successfully rebuild their life without going to jail or being dead.

I've learned the only reason for me doing the above, is the fact I wanted to die...God had other plans for me!

I've learned that just because they say a tornado can't happen in Utah, it can....

I've learned that you can be in peoples lives, and affect them in the most positive way, only if they allow you to.

I've learned that raising yourself isn't easy...even though you had a "mother".

I've also learned that just because you have a mother doesn't mean that person really truly cares about you, especially if they lie to you.

I've learned that siblings suck.

I've learned that people in glass houses shouldn't throw stones.

I've learned the value of hard work, and getting where you are at based on true hard work...not by screwing someone over or lying to them to get there.

I've learned that getting A's in college isn't easy, but by hell it sure is fun when you get them...especially when you are on the Deans List!!! 

I've learned that no matter what, I love my husband more than life itself, and that it takes two people to not only make a relationship, but break it up too.

I've learned what true love really is.

I've learned the hardness of suicide...first hand...

I've also learned how hard it is to loose a parent 3 days after your birthday, 5 years to the day after suicide happened by ex husband.

I've learned how hard it is to rebuild your life all by yourself, without any support....only judgemental attitudes.

I've learned abandonment, stalking, paternity fraud and extrinsic fraud...what they are and how hard it is to deal with it.

I've learned how hard it is to live in the state of Utah with the last name of Jeffs.....and get JUSTICE.

I've learned the values of friendships, deep true friendships.

I've learned you do not have to be related to someone to love them, and their children!

I've learned that writing books is fun, and creating a business all your own is fun!

I've learned you can't change others' opinions of you, they can only do that themselves.

I've learned to take the things I do wrong, and try to correct them...without being a bitch about "having to change".

I've learned that Lucy is a horrible bitch, and I'd like her to kindly leave!

I've learned that blending 8 kids is really hard, someone will always hate someone else, no matter what spouse it is, or what kid it is.

I've learned you can't do anything about the above, only they can.

I've learned that I have dwelt too much time on a horrible situation I am unable to change.

I have learned that trying to help someone else doesn't do them any good.....

I've learned that I want my drivers license back and a car.....all so I can have a life of my own as to not affect my husband the way I do.

I've learned I want my children to have a life, and be happy, no matter who they are.

I've learned that only I can take care of ME...I can't take care of anyone else right now.

I've learned that people deserve chances, and if it takes 10 chances to get it right, then so be it...we are a family, and that is what families do.

I've learned that no matter what, people will not treat you as you want them to treat you, unless you say something to them about things and expect it.

I've learned that I miss "people".....and I totally miss being a part of a "family".....

I've learned that I am tired, stressed out, and emotional as hell.....

I've learned my health sucks right now.....but getting diagnosed with Crohns disease, and having fibro, arthritis in my hands, and everything else...it just sucks right now...

I've learned my husband has a wonderful green thumb!

I've learned that I love my truck, and probably will have one of my own when I can buy something...

I've learned that no amount of money will change the truth, or what we've been through....

I've learned that the wildlife here in Colorado is wonderful, along with the beauty!

I've learned that phones and relationships swing both ways, and if you avoid someone...well, then that should be self explanatory...why keep calling someone who doesn't want to be around you?

I've learned that things are going to go exactly as God plans it...and NOTHING I do will change that!

I've learned just because you might know something is going to happen, doesn't change it from happening.

I've learned to accept the gifts I have, and do good with them.

I've learned to be thankful for what I do have that is right in front of me.....

I've learned that the kindness of 3 strangers turned my life around, where nothing else did.

I've learned that God loves me, and guided me to where I am today, and if it wasn't for Him, I wouldn't be here to talk about it today.

I've learned to laugh again, smile again....despite my past!

I've learned to deal with the last name, keep toxic people out of my life and stay strong to who I am.

I've learned who is and isn't there for me.I've learned that it wasn't my fault.....not the suicide, not the molestations....it wasn't my fault.

I've learned the Miracle of Forgiveness, and letting go....

I've learned to get my act together and get an education!

I've learned how to be selfless, and do what needs to be done for your children.

I've learned being a grandma is really fun, even if it's not your own grandchild!

I've learned how to help others by listening and offering advice where need be.

I've learned I don't like seeing a grandfather, father and now a son go through the same things, because of a "mother".

I've learned I'm confused about "who" I am, where I came from, and where I am going...but look forward to the day I get where I belong!

I've discovered that life isn't easy.

I've discovered that living with my husband is not easy, but living without him is worse.

I've discovered that letting go and forgiving is really hard to do.

I've discovered that mistakes are made, and people feel like shit afterwards. So what, why beat them up over a mistake they made, learn from it instead.

I've discovered how people can manipulate, fraud and lie to get through life, instead of getting where they are by honest, hard work.

I've discovered that moving away sometimes is the best thing you can do for yourself, to survive life.

I've discovered that the truth is the truth, no matter which way you twist it.

I've discovered how to not hurt someone because of a lie.

I've discovered how to take it all away by masking the pain.

I've discovered when it comes right down to it, people truly do not care about you.....

I've discovered that family isn't necessarily your own biological children or siblings, it's what you have in front of you and with you.

I've discovered that having to rebuild your life sucks.

I've discovered how hard it is to bounce back after a really hard, long stress level.

I've discovered my mouth gets me in more trouble than I know what to do with...but maybe people could think of what I am saying, instead of the words I say.

I've discovered I love Sims2 and Sims3...a lot!

I've discovered Denver is great, the Med's here are great, and this place is a lot like California!!!!!!

I've discovered old friends, through the wonderful WWW!

I've discovered school, how hard it is, how rewarding it is, and how with a bit of hard work, you can get wherever you want to.

I've discovered first hand how people can change.

I've discovered no two people in a family are a like, but it's funnier than hell watching a son that is so much like his father....

I've discovered we all have an anger management problem, and I'm gonna fix mine if others will fix there's too!

I've discovered that life just isn't fair, and your fairy godmother is not going to show up and do crap for you!

I've discovered how hard it is to be without your kids, and nobody should ever have to do that.

I've discovered if you have money then everyone likes you, but if you don't...watch out.

I've discovered what happens to people when others lie about you, about things that are detremental to your health.

I've discovered how crooked cops are, they would rather listen to one side....than to get the truth.

I've discovered how judgemental people really are.

I've discovered how hurtful words are, not just for the person the words are said to, but also to others that are close to that person.

I've discovered that just because you have a dream that eventually comes true, you can't control it...you can only learn from it.

I've learned that people just do not get it...either they are stupid, blind or dumbasses, but they just do not get it.

I've learned that you can try and try, but it doesn't matter to those who care nothing about you in the first place. They would rather keep the poor picked on me attitude instead of the love offered.

I've also learned that you can screw up time and time again, and those that truly understand, love you and help you work through it, and those who care nothing about you will judge you until the day you die for each and every fuck up you do make.

I've learned I hate more than I should, but when you hear the same shit from people, only different year, you tend to get tired of just listening to that same shit.

I've discovered that it doesn't matter what anyone thinks, or says. There are laws against slander.

I've discovered I'm scared about my husbands health, and nothing will change that.

I've discovered I have an anger management problem.....and if people get in my face, I'm not sure if I will be able to control my temper.

I've long past discovered that it's time for an attorney........

I've learned school is one of my only saving graces, and nobody can or will take that away from me.

I've learned that you can be right there for someone and until they allow you IN their life, will things change.

I've discovered that right now, some people deserve what they get.........

I've discovered that just because I had a kid with a man, that man owes me nothing except child support and respect, and that's just about it.

I've learned that people will always be who they are, depending on their circle of influence.

I've learned that letting go and moving on is harder than it looks, because some jerk will always try to keep you back in the past.

I've learned that when others do something, it's ok...but when you do it, you are a horrible person.

I've learned that no matter what, you can't change the past. You can only learn from the mistakes that are made, and try to do better from that point.

I've also learned where my place is in things, and I certainly wouldn't visit people in my past that are connected to a past lover.

I've learned that people will go to all extreme's to make you look bad to others when they hate you like they do.

I've learned that women can lie like dogs, stalk a man, and otherwise ruin his life and it's ok.....but if a man does it, then it's off to court we go.

I've learned how not to take my anger to the next level, even though I truly wish it wasn't illegal or immoral.

I've learned why my husband chooses not to talk to people, or deal with this crappy situation. I've learned you can forgive people, but when they keep doing the same thing to you, how often do you have to keep forgiving before you start to say something?

I've learned you can move away from a situation, but it truly will never go away.

I've learned even though you have a computer, phone, or other means of speaking to people...that does not matter.

I've learned that phones and crap only swing one way with us.

I've learned that moving 526 miles away from people makes them grow some serious balls.

I've learned women will do anything to stalk a man they love when the man leaves them.

I've learned what lengths a person will go to when they hate you.

I've learned what happens to a person when they lie about you, what you are doing, and who you are.

I've learned that people will always talk shit about someone else, even though they haven't ever lived in your home, been at your home, been around you, spoke to you, or anything else.

I've learned that when you say something, it will then turn into you have said this, or that or something else...but not the something you actually said.

I've learned that yogurt in the mornings make me feel good!

I've learned I love school, and what it will bring me at the end of it all.

I've learned that no matter how many times you say you are sorry to someone, when you fight...all bets are off, and you then have the rights to bring up each and every fuck up that person ever did...

I've learned that people will say anything about you, just because they do not want you with the person you are with.

I've learned that it is time for an attorney to take care of a few "problems".......

I've learned that history is repeating itself.....and to what extremes women will go to to lie their way through life and ride on a man's shirtails.

I've learned that someone women just do not get it...

I've learned that a woman can keep kids away from a man...and at the end of it all, it's the man's fault they didn't see the kids.

I've learned that when you do not have money to take someone to court for what they are doing you are screwed and known as a horrible, pathetic person.

I've learned that you can say what needs to be said, but you will still be known as the bitch.

I've learned that no matter what-things will be said, things will be taken out of context, and others will not do what you feel should be done.

But I've also learned that I can either accept others, learn from them and get on with life...or keep em' in the past with thoughts and feelings.

I've learned that it takes just as much energy to make me mad as it does to make me happy! I would rather be happy!

Lynda